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The Quiet Art of Saying Exactly What You Mean
Most miscommunication isn't about a lack of words — it's about the gap between what we intend and what we actually express. A practical guide to closing that distance.
Thoughtful writing for people who take their relationships, growth, and everyday wellbeing seriously.
Our mission: to publish honest, research-informed editorial that helps readers think more clearly about communication, community, and the art of living alongside others.
Carefully edited stories on communication, self-improvement, modern relationships, and the small rituals that sustain a good life.
Most miscommunication isn't about a lack of words — it's about the gap between what we intend and what we actually express. A practical guide to closing that distance.
Grand gestures rarely change how we see ourselves. Research suggests it's the modest, consistent commitments — kept or broken — that quietly reshape our self-image over time.
Boundaries aren't walls — they're the clear, honest agreements that let relationships breathe. Here's how to name your limits in ways that deepen, rather than diminish, closeness.
Decades of wellbeing research converge on a single finding: proximity to familiar, friendly faces is one of the most underrated contributors to daily life satisfaction.
In an era of constant connectivity, the way we spend the first sixty minutes of our day shapes our capacity for focus, patience, and genuine presence with others.
Most of us listen to respond, not to understand. Cognitive scientists and therapists agree on a handful of concrete techniques that transform this habit — if you practise them deliberately.
From the science of listening to the rituals of rest — find the subjects that matter most to you.
My Date Inc was founded in Portland, Oregon, in 2017 by a small group of editors, psychologists, and writers who shared a frustration with the state of lifestyle media. Too much was superficial. Too little was grounded in evidence. Nothing seemed to take the complexity of everyday human relationships seriously.
We started publishing weekly long-form essays and practical guides with a simple editorial principle: treat readers as thoughtful adults navigating real, layered lives. Every article we commission is expected to be useful, honest, and well-sourced.
Today, My Date Inc reaches readers in more than forty countries. We remain independent — no venture capital, no affiliate schemes, no pay-to-play editorial. Our only business is the trust of our audience, and we protect it carefully.
We write about communication, self-understanding, friendship, community life, and the daily habits that help people feel more grounded. We believe good ideas, clearly expressed, genuinely change how people think and act.
Claudia has spent over fifteen years as a features editor and cultural journalist. Before co-founding My Date Inc, she edited a longform section at a national Sunday magazine and contributed to several international publications on psychology and culture. She holds a postgraduate degree in Social Psychology from the University of Edinburgh and believes good editorial is fundamentally an act of service.
How we source, verify, and correct our journalism — and why our independence is non-negotiable.
Every article originates from a genuine editorial conversation, not a commercial brief. Writers are commissioned based on their expertise and perspective, not their reach or following. We do not accept sponsored editorial, native advertising, or paid placements. Story ideas are assessed purely on their relevance and value to readers.
All articles citing research, statistics, or expert claims pass through our Research Editor before publication. Primary sources are linked wherever possible. When a study or claim is contested, we present the dispute clearly rather than simplifying it away. Our standard is: if we cannot verify it, we do not publish it.
We correct errors promptly, transparently, and without burying the correction. When a significant change is made to a published piece, a dated correction note is appended at the top of the article. Readers who spot errors are encouraged to write to editors@mydateinc.com and can expect a response within three working days.
No advertiser, investor, or third party has any influence over our editorial decisions. We maintain a strict separation between commercial activity and editorial content. Our editorial team has sole authority over what is published, how it is framed, and when it is retracted. This independence is written into our editorial charter.
We write for our readers, not for algorithms, share counts, or engagement metrics. Headlines describe what an article contains — they are not engineered for clicks. We do not publish content designed to distress, mislead, or exploit emotional vulnerability. Our measure of success is whether a piece genuinely helps someone think or feel more clearly.
Contributors are required to disclose any conflicts of interest relevant to their submission. We do not allow simultaneous or repeat publication of substantially similar content elsewhere without disclosure. All contributors agree to our contributor guidelines, which include requirements on sourcing, tone, accuracy, and the ethical treatment of personal stories shared by third parties.
We read every message. Whether you have a story idea, a correction to flag, or a question about our editorial process, we want to hear from you.
We aim to respond to all editorial enquiries within two working days. Letters for publication should include the writer's full name and location.
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